Believing We Are Enough

At what point in our lives will we stop believing that we are not enough? From the moment we are born,society brain washes us into believing that our happiness exists outside of ourselves in people, places and things. This external,conditional love we seek has the power to make us or break us. Sadly, we never realize that the chains that we perceive are setting us free, are actually enslaving us and only we have the key. If we give external factors the power to jerk us around and control our happiness, then we will always feel powerless and dependent on everything but ourselves. One day our spirit will wake up and realize that all we need is right here and right now in this very moment. All we have to do is start listening to the voice inside of us that says " I am enough."

Websters dictionary defines happiness as "A state of well being and contentment." I agree with this definition, I also believe that true happiness can not be obtained externally. While it may feel as if love, success, material wealth, etc are the source of our happiness, I would say that they are conditional and can not offer constant or even lasting happiness. Many argue that constant happiness is impossible. Of course none of us are elated 24-7-We have good days and bad days. I am referring to the kind of happiness that exists at a cellular level-a calm and constant, internal voice that tells us no matter what, we are enough. Many of us are guilty of living our lives in holding patterns, waiting for the perfect partner to come along, or the perfect job, etc. Some how, we convince ourselves that when these external conditions finally arrive, then we will experience true happiness. It is almost as if we have resigned to exist in this state of limbo until our ship arrives. For many, it does arrive and eventually it sails off, leaving them once again searching the horizon for the next ship to dock.

When I write these blogs, so many people ask me..."well, what is the answer...how do I do this?" The truth is, I don't know. I can only share what I have discovered for myself through my own experience, strength and hope. Each person has to find their own way. I believe that all of us has a unique path to follow in this life. Just like happiness, we have to seek our own answers inside ourselves, not from others. We can listen to others and observe their journey, but their answers belong to them alone, not us. I would say, stop looking to others to help you find your answers and trust that when the time is right, your soul will know exactly what to do.

I struggled spiritually for so many years looking outwardly for guidance from others. It never lasted, because they were not my answers-I was just merely bowering them. Eventually over time, I would find myself back in the same boat, lost and confused. I was trying to find my way using someone else's road map and not creating my own. That is not to say that the words of others are not valuable and even instrumental in inspiring us. What I mean is that at the end of the day, we have to walk our own lone path. It is simply part of our soul's necessary evolution. One day we have to wake up and learn to trust ourselves and create our own answers.

There is a place that is often overlooked and that is the state of "in between." As humans we tend to look at things black and white. We are either here or there, it is either then or now.... Those "in between" periods when we feel as if we are not growing or evolving are actually very powerful periods. When a seed is under the ground preparing to sprout-we cannot recognize its value, it is only when we physically see it shoot up from the ground that it takes on meaning. That dormant stage of a seed's process is similar to our own spiritual growth. Our soul is always evolving, even if we cannot see it. We just have to trust like that seed preparing to sprout-we too have a natural course to follow spiritually and in time we will blossom into exactly the person source intended us to be. Namaste.

Believing That We Are The Master Of Our Own Fate

The universe doesn't have feelings or empathy for us. Think of it as a canyon-when you yell into it, it reverberates with the sound of your own voice. What you want in this life, you create, by speaking clearly into the universe. Your hopes, aspirations, dreams, etc.. echo back to you. But first, you must be clear about what it is you want and stop waiting for life to happen to you. Clarity is the key when manifesting happiness. If we don't know what we really want, then how can it ever be manifested? Many individuals think they know what they want, yet they remain unhappy and unfulfilled. The key to happiness depends upon discovering "who" we are and learning to love ourselves unconditionally. It may sound like "new-age" mumbo jumbo, but if you are constantly punishing yourself for past mistakes or your shortcomings, then you will sabotage your desires. They will be trumped by your subconscious negative thoughts and self-talk.

Many individuals believe that love, success, physical beauty, etc will bring them happiness and they tell themselves that they want it, yet many subconsciously sabotage that desire and remain in idle. When it comes to the messages we tell ourselves, messages like: "If I found a partner I would be complete," or "If I got that 'perfect' job then my life would be meaningful, " etc., we pay lip service to it, yet what we are unconsciously telling the universe may be quite the contrary. We have to "know" that we "know" that we "know" what we want and that must first begin with knowing "who" we are and accepting ourselves on a deep subconscious level. Our plan has to be definite, purposeful...untainted by contradiction-otherwise we will get back from the universe exactly what we put out there.....mixed messages. We have to be willing to look inside ourselves and face this process head on....no revervations. It isn't easy because most people just don't know where to start.

If your life is not reflecting all that you want and desire, then perhaps it is because you are not clear with yourself about what those things are. Many of you are probably thinking, Hey wait a minute, I know that I want to be in a loving relationship, or that I want to be successful- My question is, "Then why aren't you...what is stopping the process?" It is so easy for all of us to blame everything and everyone around us for our unhappiness...including God or the universe- It takes courage to look at ourselves and ask ourselves what part we play in all this. When was the last time you really challenged yourself and took responsibility for your own happiness...have you ever? If not....then start right now. it isn't impossible-it just takes desire, courage and commitment. If your unhappy with yourself, then chances are your unhappy with your life. Let's face it-none of us really wants to hear that-We would rather point the finger at external circumstances.

The place to begin is right here-right now. It means first being open to the possibility that you might be standing in your own way of happiness. It means asking questions like; Do I love myself or even know what that means, could I subconsciously be blaming or punishing myself for past events or circumstances, can I forgive myself for my mistakes and disappointments. This might sound like more over-used "self-helf" nonsense, but I assure you it is not. Everything is made up of matter and energy...that isn't philosophy that is science. What we believe, the thoughts we produce, they too are matter and energy. If we think good thoughts, then those good thoughts echo back to us. If we are unconsciously thinking about negative things, we may not even realize that those thoughts have the power to echo back from the universe conflicting with all of those good thoughts we are consciously thinking about. The question here is-are you sabotaging your happiness? Once again if your praying for amazing things to happen, but amazing things aren't coming back...I challenge you to ask yourself why? Look inward and ask yourself what you might be doing to stand in your own way.

Tonight before you drift off to sleep,close your eyes, breathe deeply and look deep within yourself-tell yourself that you are ready to be happy. Give yourself permission to do so by asking your higher self for the courage to begin this process. Even if you don't have a clue how this is going to happen-just be open to the possibility. Imagine yourself happy and what that would feel like. Be clear about what you want and then have your higher self tell yourself that together you will begin this journey.....you have taken the first step.....congratulations. namaste!