Believing That True Happiness Is Living Our Lives Internally

Authentic self-esteem should be stationary and unaffected by outside conditions. Individuals with a strong sense of self-value can separate who they are from external factors. Like a ship on the sea, they don't let the waves knock them off course-they are able to overcome the conditions. Unfortunately far too many individuals allow people and life's circumstances to define their happiness. They are not able to separate who they are from outside conditions. This makes for a life of constant ups and downs-they are like a boat tossed about on the sea of life.

True happiness should be a constant state of self-fulfillment-not relational to what is happening outside of ourselves. When we stop allowing external circumstances to define our happiness then we experience true freedom. How do we not allow external factors(people, events, etc) to affect our happiness? First we have to face the painful reality that we are telling ourselves that we are not enough, thereby allowing those external factors to manipulate our sense of self. Until we recognize this we will never be free from it. Once we are able to separate circumstances from our sense of worth, then we can change it. When we feel that knot in our gut that tells us we are allowing people, things, events to manipulate us, we have to stop and take hold of the situation. We have to make a conscious decision to act as our own counsel- use self-talk to soothe ourselves and redirect ourselves back inward. We take our power back by making the conscious decision to do so. It is that simple.

We have to learn to separate ourselves from the external circumstances in our lives. We must learn to live our lives internally. In other words, we are not the external labels that we might be experiencing such as "poor," "single," "unemployed," etc. These are just outside factors or conditions existing in our lives-they do not define who we are as spiritual beings. We are born into a culture that programs external living. we are not taught as children to live our lives internally. If we look inward then we are told we are being selfish. Who we are is our own decision-our birthright. It should be a constant. Far too many of us see ourselves AS the external conditions in our lives. We feel bad because we are unemployed, unable to find a mate, struggling financially, or feel burnt out in our jobs or lives. If we cannot consciously separate ourselves from these external factors, then like a victim being robbed, we simply hand over our personal power and become victims of circumstance.

Realizing that we are not the external factors in our lives, might very well be the key to happiness. As a spiritual being, we can never truly be happy if we don't separate WHO we are from all of the external circumstances in our life. These are only illusions of happiness-they are not stationary like our souls. If we constantly give our power away to them, then we will never be balanced or genuinely fulfilled. I encourage you to step back and separate yourselves from the external factors presently in your life. What you will have left to face is yourself. Talk to yourself and gently remind your soul that your true essence is not conditional on these factors. They are only illusions that you have placed your power in. True happiness and self-fulfillment comes to us when we can strip away the false notion that anything outside of ourselves can ever offer us true lasting happiness.
Namaste.